Potty Training Woes

Yes, my son still has yet to be potty trained. He has even said out loud "I am not ready yet". Well that would be fine if the class that he started with in preschool did not move up without him. I was once told "oh don't worry about it yet, there is a boy in the older class that is still wearing diapers" and "wait until he gets to Miss Meghan's class she's very good with that" Well guess what he didn't move up to Miss Meghan's class. All of his class mates that had birthdays between October 2nd and December 31st got moved up. Damien is now in a class where the children are now 6 months or more younger than him. I was told nothing. Not even why they decided to not move him. I guess they thought maybe I wouldn't notice. Due to illness and keeping Damien out of class and then other scheduling I haven't contacted anyone yet. I'm not even mad, I'm heartbroken. First I have to deal with the idea of "what am I doing wrong as a parent" or "I must be a bad mother to have the only child not potty trained" On top of that why did they decide to change the rules for my child. Even my therapist agrees that it is probably not productive to keep a child in a class, in this age group, with children 6 months younger. I know partly he likes the attention of being changed but I wonder if putting more kids in that aren't potty trained going to keep him feeling secure in diapers. Are they going to start over with their lessons now so now he'll be behind intellectually and emotionally? I don't know what to do anymore.

Ava on the other hand is doing wonderful. She can walk but doesn't have the confidence to do it for more than a few steps. And she will potty train by 18 months and it will still be before Damien.

I am not doing so well. I'm pissed at Ken right now because he is kind of nonchalant about the whole issue and that bothers me. He's not even concerned enough to ask questions or even ask who to ask questions too. His answer is to fix it the quickest way possible so I just shut up which means "Well we'll just take him out" Oh yeah, and then what do we do. There is a wait list for most places or they are really crappy places which I wouldn't even send my dog too and then it would disrupt him even more, as he has had enough teacher and class changes in his short two years there. I don't think anywhere else is different in regards to that due to crappy pay. I just feel so lost and alone in the situation without even justification from my husband. You would think he could show just a little concern at least just to make me feel a little better. I don't know what to do now.

Now I have to go apologize for exploding and being mean to him just now. Gotta love anxiety!